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30 March 2012

I'm "wife" – I've finished that –

I'm "wife" – I've finished that – 

That other state – 

I'm Czar – I'm "Woman" now –

It's safer so – 

How odd the Girl's life looks

Behind this soft Eclipse – 

I think that Earth feels so

To folks in Heaven – now – 

This being comfort – then

That other kind – was pain – 

But why compare?

I'm "Wife"! Stop there!
                                                            F225 (1861)  199

In a society that values marriage highly and spinsterhood not at all, the creative spinster finds outlets in work, art, or else just thumbs her nose at society. Sometimes she is profoundly lonely. Emily Dickinson took joy in her poetry, her baking, her nephews and family, her garden – and in love. In this poem she imagines what it would feel like to put girlhood and spinsterhood behind. By the time this poem was written she would certainly have been considered a spinster.
            The frustration she has with her current status comes through loud and clear when she calls it “That other state.” In comparison, to be a “wife” is to be a “Czar” and a “’Woman.’” The change is put in cosmic terms: it’s an “Eclipse.” As a wife she is able to view life from the sunny side and look back on the Girl who on the far side sees only a dark disk hiding the sun. But it is a “soft” eclipse as if in one step a girl goes from the dark to the light. The transformation seen from the bright, wife side she likens to life after death. The “folks in Heaven” look back on earthly people and see them as “odd,” not fully aware. That’s how the “Girl’s life looks” to a married woman.
People felt sorry for the poor
spinster who must stay in
perpetual girlhood.
            But not only odd: the poet says “It’s safer” to be a wife. The 19th-century girl and spinster must worry about protection, income, and their place in society. Women didn’t yet have the vote, couldn’t hold many jobs except low paying ones. Think of what it might mean in a fundamentalist country today to be a woman: you are considered inferior to a man, you are considered easy prey by the unscrupulous. But we needn’t go that far. Dickinson wouldn’t have been in real danger as she had a strong and caring father and brother. She came from an educated and affluent family. And in actuality, Massachusetts had more unmarried women than other states, many of whom announced their rejection of marriage on principal or because they wanted the freedom. But several of Dickinson's other poems talk about being adrift or lost, and many talk about loneliness and pain. Perhaps she meant it would be safer to have an anchor and a soul mate.
            The state of marriage she consequently calls “comfort” while the other is “pain.” But then in a flippant ending, as if to quash any challenges and questions – from her own mind as well as from others – she says, “I’m ‘Wife’! Stop there!” ‘Nuff said, in other words. The ending ties in nicely with the first line where she says “I’ve finished that.” The dreamy and thoughtful second stanza contrasts with the abrupt conviction of the first and last. The lines are longer, too.
            The rhyme scheme is AABBCCDDEEFF – all of them slant rhymes: that/state; now/so; looks/Eclipse; so/now; then/pain; compare/Stop there. One nice touch is the repeated “that” in the first and second lines. It gives an almost stuttering effect: that…that…other state. The effect underscores the belittlement of spinsterhood. Not long ago we still called unmarried women 'old maids' – so we can't feel too smug.

There is a very interesting article about unmarried women in New England in the 1800s here.


  1. thanks for this analysis. very helpful

  2. Your blog is awesome!

  3. Very useful analysis! I was a little lost but you helped wring out the meaning for me :)

  4. Wow. Your blog is amazing

  5. Your blog is glorious! I'm taking an Emily Dickinson class right now, which has proved to be very intimidating, but your blog is helping me through it. I don't know how many of your posts I've read--probably at least thirty. Every time I come across a confusing poem I turn to Google in hopes that you've analyzed it already. So I'd like to say thank you and that you're awesome. :)

    1. Thank you! I remember searching for poetry analyses as a student -- and how much I learned from them about poetry and how to write about it.

  6. Would it be possible to expand your definition of "other state" to include that of the other woman? It is entirely speculative, of course. Also, is a soft eclipse caused by a shadow from another planet and is that a significant distinction?

    1. I don't see another woman in the poem -- can you explain your thinking there? I've never heard of a 'soft eclipse' as a real astronomical term -- and I don't think Dickinson means to be 'science-y' here. In thinking about it, though, I suppose a lunar eclipse is softer than a solar. But I think she is using 'soft' here as a way to distinguish the transition between unmarried and married. It comes softly like the creeping shadow of the earth across the moon.

  7. When/Who published this piece by her? and what year? thanks xx

  8. I'm still a little bit confused about the last line and the meaning of it, but it was very helpful in general. Appreciate it!